I believe jimscott has a Drosophyllum that survived a five-foot drop off a balcony and subsequent repotting. I'm convinced they're tougher than we give them credit. D'Amato actually recommends germinating in a separate container and transplanting shortly thereafter (which is needlessly risky and complicated, if you ask me.) The real risk is in breaking the roots and stem, more than disturbing them - as was evidenced by jim's plant. Come to think of it, jim, or possibly someone else, had one spring up in another pot that wouldn't suit a Drosophyllum, and repotted it successfully. I think they can't be shipped reliably because the risk of root and stem damage is too great. But that said, there are probably ways to ship them that increase the odds of survival.
~Joe