I don't know why but my one nepenthes that first flowered the pollen was very powdery. The next male it was very hard, once I found out I had a female I had to crush the pollen up and grind it with a spoon. The original male just flowered again but the first to open up and it's hard again. I've attached a picture, it's seemed to work because I have a successful pollination and have 5 other stalks on the same plant so hoping to get a lot of babies. Just peculiar why the pollen is so different. Trying to pollinate by flower it just doesn't rub off.