Em. So. I feel like I might be impatient. But anyway, got my first venus flytrap yesterday. So I feel a bit guilty for probably buying a plant to kill it (but then again, this site claims that they aren't hard to raise despite popular belief). I'm sure it's stressed out. It doesn't have even a little bit of red on the traps, it's light, translucent green. It looks so delicate, all the hairs look thin, long, key word: delicate. It came in a plastic terrarium, I haven't removed it from there becuase there are 3 little fruit flies (it appears) in there. They're unsubstantial meals. There are 2 of those that when I bought it have been trapped by my plant (mwahahaha) but eh I don't know how long ago that is. So I've been watching it (and watching it and watching it) and I've seen flies walk all over the same leaf about 4 different times. The trap hasn't moved (at all). Then today...separate leaf...and it hasn't moved. Yesterday I also found 2 bugs: a spider and a moth (so maybe they're not preferential meals but I found them...) and they're all sorta big for my trap. Yesyes, about 1/2 the size of one leaf. Now that I think about it about every single bug I've seen (average size) are pretty big for my trap. But the question remains: what if I dunk them in there and they just suceed to live happiliy because my trap doesn't trap? Hmmm...does this mean I have to wait for the new leaves to unfurl? (which I've heard takes a while). Do I just need to give it rest time? I'm leaving on vacation in about 2 weeks. So...also don't want to overfeed it. The bugs are in my refrigerator right now...chilling. The spider seemed to have just moseyed it's way in there a while back. He seems to be doing fine. The moth doesn't a wonderful fainting act. Anyways...my question is: to feed or not to feed? (That is if you read down this far.)